Listening and hearing are two totally different things. I’m sure someone has told you, “You’re not listening…I said…” We have all had that exact conversation. Chances are, you probably were listening. But chances are, you weren’t hearing.

There are so many reasons why we don’t hear what others are telling us:

• We’re too preoccupied with what we’re going to say back
• We’re preoccupied with something else on our minds
• We’re not that interested in what the other person has to say
• We’re physically doing something else while the other person is talking

And the list goes on. Basically, we’re just not paying attention because we’re too focused on ourselves. We do live in a “me” culture in which people are not practiced in focusing on what the other person has to say.

I challenge you to focus on others – practice hearing what others have to say – just for one day to start with. Resist the urge to reply with something like, “Yes, well when I…”  Ask more questions, show interest, give your undivided attention. You will learn some interesting things about both others and yourself.